What to Expect When Breastfeeding: A Real Talk Guide

Hey there, new momma (or soon-to-be momma)! If you’re reading this, chances are you’re gearing up for the wonderful (and sometimes wild) world of breastfeeding. Whether you’re excited, nervous, or a mix of both, it’s totally normal to have a bunch of questions swirling around in your head. Let’s dive into what you can really expect when breastfeeding—no sugarcoating, just honest, relatable advice from one mom to another.

The First Few Days: Learning the Ropes

First things first, those first few days after birth? They can be a bit of a whirlwind. You and your baby are both learning how this whole breastfeeding thing works, so give yourself some grace. Your little one might latch on like a pro, or it might take some time (and a few tries) to get it right. That’s okay! It doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Remember, practice makes perfect.

One thing to expect? Sore nipples. Yup, it’s a thing. But don’t freak out—this doesn’t last forever. Coconut oil can be your best friend, and if things are really uncomfortable, don’t hesitate to reach out to a lactation consultant. They’re wizards when it comes to helping with latch issues and positioning. I signed up for the breastfeeding courses through Aeroflow and my Insurance even covered it.

The Milk Comes In: Hello, Engorgement!

Around day 3 or 4, you might feel like you’ve suddenly turned into a milk-making machine. Your milk “comes in,” and wow, it can feel like a lot. Your breasts may feel full, heavy, or even a bit hard—this is called engorgement, and it’s super common. Warm showers and gentle massage can help, and if you’re feeling really uncomfortable, hand express a little milk to relieve the pressure.

Feeding on Demand: Say Goodbye to Schedules

One of the biggest surprises for many new moms is just how often newborns eat. When people say “feeding on demand,” they mean it. Your baby might want to nurse every hour or so, especially during growth spurts. It can feel like all you do is feed, feed, feed—but this constant nursing helps build your milk supply and keeps your baby happy and full. So, embrace the snuggles, grab your favorite show, and get comfy on the couch.

The Emotional Rollercoaster

Breastfeeding can stir up a lot of emotions—sometimes all at once. One minute you might feel an overwhelming sense of love and bonding with your baby, and the next, you might feel frustrated or exhausted. It’s all normal, and it’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling. Hormones are a powerful thing, and adjusting to life with a newborn is no walk in the park.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Whether it’s having your partner bring you snacks and water (breastfeeding is surprisingly thirsty work!) or asking family and friends to pitch in around the house, remember you don’t have to do it all. As hard as it is try to let go and if hubby offers to do the dishes let him load that dishwasher however works for him! This one killed my OCD.

The Leaking, the Pumping, and the Public Feeds

Ah, the joys of leaking. You might find yourself suddenly soaked at the most inconvenient times—thank you, letdown reflex! Nursing pads are a lifesaver, whether you go for disposable or reusable (I suggest the reusable!). And when it comes to pumping, don’t stress too much if it takes a while to get the hang of it. Every mom and every baby is different. Some moms are pump pros, while others might find it a bit trickier. Do what works for you. I decided to skip pumping altogether because that’s what what worked best for me.

Breastfeeding in public can feel intimidating at first, but with a little practice, you’ll be a pro. Whether you use a cover or not is totally up to you—do what makes you feel comfortable. And remember, you have every right to feed your baby wherever you are. If you want to just pop one out then girl go ahead and embrace it!

The Long Haul: What’s Next?

As the weeks turn into months, breastfeeding usually gets easier. Your body and your baby find a rhythm, and those early challenges fade into the background. Some moms choose to breastfeed for a few months, while others continue for a year or more. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer—just do what’s best for you and your baby.

And if you ever decide to stop breastfeeding, whether it’s sooner or later, know that you’re doing a great job no matter what. Formula is a fantastic option if and when you need it, and your baby will thrive either way.

You’ve Got This

Breastfeeding is a journey, with its highs, lows, and everything in between. It’s a beautiful way to nourish and bond with your baby, but it’s also a big commitment, and it’s okay if it’s not picture-perfect all the time. The most important thing? Trust yourself, trust your baby, and don’t be afraid to seek support when you need it.

So take a deep breath, momma. You’re doing an amazing job, and your baby is lucky to have you. Happy breastfeeding!